I just finished reading "Act like a lady, Think like a man" by Steve Harvey last night. Quite humorous, but filled with some very insightful information.
The book is essentially about women and self-respect before and during a relationship. He also gives women "rules" to follow in order to protect themselves from guys who aren't the real deal.
I actually closed the book and felt sorry for men.
Women have been allowed to vote since the early 1900's but it took approximately 40 more years for the women's liberation movement to come into effect. Men have had to make a huge paradigm shift in the last 50 years.
Harvey mentions in the book that men like independent women but they also want to feel needed. He explains that it's totally fine to have a career, have your girlfriends, do your own thing but at the end of the day, if you don't need your man, he's not going to need you either. Pretty simple.
Listen, I know some of you are thinking "But I don't need a man. I'm just fine on my own. I pay my own bills, open my own door, do my own yard work, change my own oil!" I get that. But I also get that when women get upset about this very issue it's because the reaction is fear driven. We don't want to go back to the dark ages where women are treated as objects. Who does? I think that by being overly independent women are treating themselves like objects. Let's be real, we all have feelings no matter our gender and pretending that we don't need anyone, whether it be a friendship or romantic relationship, is simply stupid.
I've had numerous conversations recently with other women about what is and isn't ok in a relationship and very few of us agreed with each other. If we all have different ideas on how to treat women... how is a man supposed to know?
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