Ah... and here we are. Holiday time. I knew this would come and when my best friend asked who had the kids this year for Easter I tip-toed around the subject - a lot. Truth is, I didn't want to know. Because if I didn't have them then what the heck was I going to do? ME??!!! The queen of holidays! The hostess with the... well, ok - not mostess but I do like to host and celebrate. But I knew I had to check.
Not my turn. Not this year.
Sure, I could go over to my in-laws' house. I love them all and they love me and we're all great together and stuff. But after thinking about it for a while, I need to be respectful for present and future relationships that may occur, mine and his. Would it be cool for me if when I'm in another relationship I go over and celebrate the holidays with his family because "that's how it's been for the last 11 years"? No, that wouldn't be cool. It wouldn't be cool for anyone involved, because it wouldn't be ok for me to invite the boyfriend along.
So... there you have it. I don't have the kids for the holiday and I need to start getting creative on various ways to celebrate on alternate days. It's not the day that matters - I know that. It's the celebration. So I'm thinking Good Friday sounds like a good day to celebrate it with the kids. We'll do the Prayer Walk at church, come home and have an Easter dinner/celebration and they'll go hang out with Dad for the weekend (it turns out to be his weekend anyway).
Perfect plan? Nope. But as I wrote before... I'm so over perfect.
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